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What You Allow is What Will Continue


Stop allowing people's bad behavior towards you to go on for longer than it needs to. I know it happens because I have been guilty of it in the past as well. Whether its someone in your office, a family member or the person you are in a relationship with don't be afraid to preserve your self-respect. I know you are probably tired of taking other people's crap and have a few questions on how to stop, I have taken the liberty to answer a few for you below. If you have any additional questions, you can ask them in the comment section below.

When is the best time to address their behavior? As close to the occurrence as possible. When you recognize that a person isn't giving you the respect that you deserve, it is important for you to address their behavior and treatment towards you right away. This keeps them from being able to deny their actions later and denies you the opportunity to come up with excuses to avoid confrontation by pushing it off until later.

What do you do if the person doesn't adjust their behavior? If they aren't adjusting their behavior, adjust yours. When someone cares about you they care about how their actions affect you. When you adjust your behavior by minimizing or ceasing contact with that individual, it sends a strong and clear message that you will not tolerate their disrespect. YOU teach people how to treat YOU.

How do you move on after a lengthy relationship with a toxic person? Simple, you put one foot in front of the other and just keep moving forward. Of course, you won't magically stop caring about that person but you will feel better about the decision that you made in the long run. It's okay to walk away from toxic family members as well. Blood relation does not give anyone a pass to hurt you.

Hopefully, these answers will get you headed in the right direction. Leave any questions or comments that you have about this week's topic in the comment section below. Remember, what you allow will continue, you teach people how to treat you.