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2019: It's Your Year, Your Life... Own It!


2019 is here, what are you going to do to make your life better than in previous years? What will it take for you to truly be happy? How can you live the life that you always wanted to live? These things are possible for you to achieve but first it begins with YOU taking ownership of your life. You will have to stop looking for things on the outside to satisfy your needs and begin within. Taking ownership of your own happiness will require both work and daily maintenance. I remember when I was going through depression and I kept thinking to myself "Why can't I just be happy?", "Why is my life the way it is?". It took me getting fed up with feeling the way I felt before I really realized that the ball was in my court. 

     During that time I used to travel a lot and it would feel good to go out of town, party, shop, spend money that I really didn't have, just to free my mind of how I felt inside. The sad part was after every trip I would have to go home, back to reality. I had to check myself on some of the things that I was doing to that kept me unhappy. I know that might sound a little crazy but most times it is us who hold ourselves back more than any outside force. Until you get real about what you need to do and actually take action you will be stuck in the same cycle that you wish to escape from.

     Where do you start? That's a great question, start by setting SMART Goals, to make sure your goals are clear and attainable, each one should be:

  • Specific 

  • Measurable 

  • Achievable 

  • Realistic

  • Time-bound

Let me break it down for you even more...

 Specific: Begin by asking yourself the 5 W's of your goal. Write your answers down to help you to brainstorm these questions. Don't stop until you answer all five questions.

Measurable: Determine how you are going to measure your success. Ask yourself how will I know that I am on track as well as how will you know when you achieved your goal? 

Achievable: Set goals that you know you can actually achieve in order to keep yourself motivated. It is easier to stay on track when you are actually making progress even if it's a little at a time.

Realistic: Think about how you can realistically obtain your goals. Do your research and to try to avoid common pitfalls. Have a plan in place for when you start to feel discouraged.

Time Bound: Give yourself a deadline to accomplish your goal. You can also set milestones to check in on your progress. 

Setting SMART goals is one tool you can use to get your life back on track,  however, continue to learn as much as you can and tap into your resources to accomplish your goal. We are not meant to take a go at life alone. I want to encourage you to make a commitment to yourself to not let your 2019 become a reflection of your 2018 life. It's a new year, it's time to take your life to the next level. Happy New Year from me to you, let's get it!